Episode 33: Forgiving Your Younger (and more fucked up) Self
Forgiving ourselves is tricky…
We know we need to do it if there’s any hope in us living our truth and daring to change, but why is it so damn hard? Maybe it’s because our past behaviors make us wince, or maybe it’s because it’s so much easier to simply leave the past in the past, tucking it neatly in the dark corners of our minds never to be seen, heard, or spoken to again.
Sounds simple enough… but we all know that never works.
In order to begin the process of healing and loving ourselves fully, we have to come face to face with our past and learn how to forgive ourselves for the decisions we’ve made.
The more we hold onto guilt and resentment over the years, the more we put our entire beings at risk – body, mind, and soul. Physically, this can manifest as illness, pain, and anxiety. Mentally and emotionally it may show up as anger, frustration, stress, and separation.
AKA it’s terrible for us.
In this episode, we’re unpacking why it’s so vital to accept our past and get to a state where we agree to ‘let it be’. We’re also addressing some of the younger behaviors that we would like to forgive (yes, we’re holding onto some serious stuff), and we’re talking about techniques that we’re using to help us move forward and heal – things that we believe can work for you, too.
The point of this journey is not to beat ourselves up over and over again for the things we’ve done wrong. It’s about growing, learning, falling down, getting back up, and loving ourselves through it all. Forgiveness is the gateway to that love.
Ready to start forgiving?
Mentioned in this Episode:
Forgiveness is the gateway to self-love and acceptance.
Self-forgiveness happens in layers.
The challenge with forgiveness lies in seeing what you want and knowing that your behaviors are not meeting your expectations.
Forgiveness is about not letting the past define us, but about letting it be a part of our story
Samskara: stuck energy, thoughts, or emotions held within your body; a blockage or impression from the past.
Let it be is the new let it go. It is so hard to let things go. Letting things be allows whatever is going on settle, not take up space, and slowly be released.
When we hold onto guilt in our bodies it raises or cortisol which has an inflammatory response in our bodies. AKA it’s terrible for us.
Forgiveness does not mean you are condoning the behavior.
Forgiveness/Ball of light mediation:
- Sit or lie down to meditate
- Imagine that there is a ball of light in your heart
- As you inhale and exhale, the light grows brighter and wider
- Repeat this until you are a glowing ball of light, it may take 10-20 rounds of breath.
- Now, bring in the person, feeling, experience, or idea that you need to forgive. Welcome it into your space. See it, feel it, allow it to stand beside you.
- Slowly, with each breath, begin to pass your light over to this person or thing.
- Eventually, both of you are covered in the same healing light.
- Bask in the light together.
- This is a way of saying, I forgive you, and I honor you, and it is time to move forward.
- Take this experience with you, move on knowing you have forgiven and you have shared your light.
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